El juego de la Manipulacion

Las emociones vienen del pensamiento. Si alguien le asugura que su esposo la engaña se siente traicionada;si te dicen que te castigaran, el miedo te domina; si te dicen que tus padres sufrieron un accidente, la angustia te embarga. ¡Pero puede que sea una mentira o una exageracion para inducirte emociones!
A muchas personas les agrada jugar este juego: la manipulación. El manipulador trata de influir en ti con frases como:

• "No has escuchado la última noticia? ¿¡En que mundo vives!? Eres un ignorante!"
• "Reconocelo, te equivocaste de nuevo. ¡siempre lo haces!"
• "Me has hecho daño!"
• "Que decepción! Nunca lo creí de ti.

El manipulador usa ese tipo de frases para jugar a "la guerra emocional." Su objetivo es quebrantarte y si lo logra te sentirás como el o ella quiera: vergüenza, miedo, ira o culpa. Si tu ganas te sentiras tranquilo, indiferente o alegre.
Algunos manipuladores llegan al extremo de cometer injusticias, tratando a toda costa intimidarte. ¡NO CAIGAS EN SU TRAMPA!
Debes aprender a defenderte de este tipo de personas por que, con frecuencia estas redeado de ellas.

A veces los padres o maestros tratan de infundir emociones a los niños para que se detengan en una mala conducta, Eso esta bien. Para saber si la gente te manipula por tu bien preguntate:

• ¿La persona que me manipula me quiere, envidia o odia?
• Si yo la obedezco ¿me perjudica a mi o a mi familia y amigos?
• ¿Se preocupa por mi bienestar o solo por el suyo?
• ¿Ha tomado alcohol o droga y se no haya en sus 5 sentidos al momento de manipularte? 

Podemos desobedecer o no dejarnos manipular si se comple alguno de estos puntos.
Bien dicen:

El Valiente vive hasta que el cobarde quiere.

El Radar de las Emociones

       Vivir es como conducir un carro. Debo manejar habilmente y con atencion, sin pisar el acelerador a fondo en momentos oscuros y terribles tormentas, ya que puedo sufrir un accidente fatal. En momentos dificiles debo frenar para esquivar los obstáculos.
       Las Emociones se reflejan en un radar, me hacen bajar la velocidad y analizar el camino. Por eso las emociones son buenas, aún las que parecen malas.

• El Miedo: Me permite detectar el peligro y huír de él. Es el más útil mecanismo de defensa. Cuando sentimos miedo, frenamos, calculamos el paso más seguro u volvemos a acelerar, esquivando los riesgos.
• La Culpa: Puede ser buena; me lleva a reconocer mis errores y a cambiarde direccion para no equivocerme de nuevo.
• Ignorancia: Me lleva a querer estudiar y a crecer.
• El Orgullo: Lleva a amarme a mi mism@ y a defender mis derechos.
• La ira: Me hace rebelarme en contra de las cosas que estan mal y luchar por el bien.

Las emociones son útiles no hay que reprimirlas. Los pensamientos deben pulirse, los sentimeintos sentirse. Son señales de frenado y reaccion.  De igual manera debo tener control emocional y evitar los extremos: no detenerme totalmente por las emociones y dejar de madurar y crecer por que entonces quedaré atrapada en un espacio cerrado y las emociones se convierten en cadenas de prision.
Las emociones como alegria, entusiasmo y euforia nos inducen a acelerar. las emociones como el miedo el enojo, la vergüenza y la tristeza nos impulsan a frenar.

Not Afraid - Eminem

I'm not afraid, I’m not afraid
To take a stand, to take a stand
 (Yeah, it’s been a ride...)
 Everybody, everybody
(I guess I had to)
Come take my hand, come take my hand
 (Go to that place to get to this one)

We'll walk this road together, through the storm
(Now some of you)
Whatever weather, cold or warm
(might still be in that place)
 Just let you know that, you're not alone
 (If you're trying to get out)
Holla if you feel that you've been down the same road
(just follow me, I'll get you there)

You can try and read my lyrics off of this paper before I lay 'em
But you won't take this thing out these words before I say 'em
‘Cause ain't no way I'm let you stop me from causing mayhem
When I say 'em or do something I do it, I don't give a damn
What you think,

I'm doing this for me, so fuck the world
Feed it beans, it's gassed up, if a thing's stopping me
I'mma be what I set out to be, without a doubt, undoubtedly
And all those who look down on me I'm tearing down your balcony

No if ands or buts don't try to ask him why or how can he
From “Infinite” down to the last “Relapse” album 

He's still shittin’ whether he's on salary, paid hourly
Until he bows out or he shit's his bowels out of him

Whichever comes first, for better or worse
He's married to the game, like a fuck you for Christmas
His gift is a curse, forget the earth he's got the urge
To pull his dick from the dirt and fuck the universe

I'm not afraid to take a stand
Everybody come take my hand
We'll walk this road together, through the storm
Whatever weather, cold or warm
Just let you know that, you're not alone
Holla if you feel that you've been down the same road

Ok, quit playin' with the scissors and shit, and cut the crap
I shouldn't have to rhyme these words in the rhythm for you to know it's a rap
You said you was king, you lied through your teeth
For that fuck your fillings, instead of getting crowned you're getting capped

And to the fans, I'll never let you down again, I'm back
I promise to never go back on that promise, in fact
Let's be honest, that last Relapse CD was "ehhhh"
Perhaps I ran them accents into the ground

Relax, I ain't going back to that now
All I'm trying say is get back, click-clack POW
 Cause I ain't playin' around It's a game called circle and

 I don't know how, I'm way too up to back down

But I think I'm still tryna figure this crap out
Thought I had it mapped out, but I guess I didn't
This fucking black cloud still follow's me around
But it's time to exercise these demons,
These motherfuckers are doing jumping jacks now!

I'm not afraid to take a stand
Everybody come take my hand
We'll walk this road together, through the storm
Whatever weather, cold or warm
Just let you know that, you're not alone
Holla if you feel that you've been down the same road

And I just can't keep living this way
So starting today, I'm breaking out of this cage
I'm standing up, Imma face my demons
I'm manning up, Imma hold my ground
I've had enough, now I'm so fed up
Time to put my life back together right now

It was my decision to get clean, I did it for me
Admittedly, I probably did it subliminally for you
So I could come back a brand new me, you helped see me through
And don't even realize what you did, believe me you

I been through the ringer, but they can do little to the middle finger
I think I got a tear in my eye, I feel like the king of
My world, haters can make like bees with no stingers,
and drop dead no more beef flingers

No more drama from now on, I promise
To focus soley on handling my responsibility's as a father
So I solemnly swear to always treat this roof like my daughters and raise it
You couldn't lift a single shingle on it

Cause the way I feel, I'm strong enough to go to the club
Or the corner pub and lift the whole liquor counter up
Cause I'm raising the bar, I shoot for the moon
But I'm too busy gazing at stars, I feel amazing and

I'm not afraid to take a stand
Everybody come take my hand
We'll walk this road together, through the storm
Whatever weather, cold or warm
Just let you know that, you're not alone
Holla if you feel that you've been down the same road